Last night I was having a conversation with a male friend of mine. We began talking about relationships and love in those relationships. Then some how it came up in conversation that he believes if a woman he is with is making money, that the money she makes should go to him for him to keep for the couple. Needless to say I was more than appalled by his chauvinistic attitude. I just didn't understand why he though that he should have control of the the finances in the relationship. He tried to explain to me that he's "the man of the relationship and what I say goes." SMH. I could not believe that he really thought this way. So I dove deeper into the concept. I asked him if he and his girl were hurting for money, would he care where she got it from or just that she gave the money to him? He replied with money is money. Shocked once again I gave him a scenario. I said, "Say a man was willing to give your girlfriend money for spending time with him. Would you care if she started dating someone else along with you?" He replied by saying, "Make that money for us. She would just be using him and his money would be coming back to me so why would I be mad?" See ladies this is the problem. Men like this. For some reason this young man feels that his girlfriend is not equal to him. Seems that he would rather be her pimp than her lover and friend. Why is it that men still think that they wear the pants in the relationship and therefore have the ability and right to control the relationship? Personally I could never be with a man who thinks that he can control me and take my money. I work hard for my money and that's why it's exactly that MY MONEY! LOL. It's understandable that with the history that is between men and women there is still an issue of control. But with it being 2011 and with all the advances in gender equality you would think that the men would start to understand that women are just as competent (if not more) then their male counterparts. To me relationships should not be about who has the power but more about how the other person makes you feel. Unfortunately many men and women are raised to believe that the man makes the decisions and that the man is the head of the household. I think that if a man can't handle a strong woman who wants to take charge sometimes, then he isn't really a man at all. Don't get me wrong I'm all for chivalry and I love a man that can make me feel safe. But there is a difference in protecting you woman and controlling your woman. The type of men that I have dealt with in past years seem to all be this chauvinistic type of male that feels his word is law. I'm sorry to burst your bubble fellas but the only man that I have ever taken orders from is my father. And there will never be another guy like him. So until you can treat me and take care of me the way my father does then your word doesn't mean shit. LOL. Anyway, to all you men who are trying to control your girl or make her do things just to make you happy, think about this: How would you feel if some man was treating your mother, sister, aunt or whoever you care about that way? Don't do something that you wouldn't want done to yourself or to someone that you care about. Remember that all actions have consequences whether negative or positive.
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